There are 3 things that must be present in order for transformation to occur. One is a path that works. The other is being able to see that a person has followed that path successfully. The third is a community in which to practice.
The community aspect has been the most difficult for me to find. This beloved community does not need to meet in a room with walls, nor have a similar belief system. But in order to be beloved, it would seem that the community must be present, vulnerable and accessible.
Here is a wonderful quote from American philosopher Josiah Royce about this community and how, even though it may not be currently present, we can live in such a way to be consistent with its values. Maybe that is enough.
I believe in the beloved community and in the spirit that makes it beloved.
And in the communion of all who are,
In will and in deed,
I see no such community as yet.
Nonetheless, my rule of life is to act so as to hasten its coming.
– Josiah Royce